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Wrapping Up 2020 (Part 1; Relationships)

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Shuuuu! Can we wrap up the year already? (That sounded so relieving to so many of us) I mean the year has been very exhausting and draining however we managed to survive and we are a few weeks away before we finally concluded 2020 and step into 2021. I don't know about some of you guys but I'm honestly not ready to start the new year. I have some anxieties that just hold me back from dreaming and allow myself to be however I looked into 2020 and honestly it wasn't all bad, there were happy moments here and there. *sighs* I take a deep breath because I know this thing has been one of the most "challenging" thing in my life but I think I finally found what the problem is. See relationships are meant to challenge us, grow us and make us look at ourselves in a different way.  2020 wasn't kind when it came to me finding "Mr right" or wait maybe I'm too young to be even looking for him, wait am I? Ok! Let's start at the beginning...

Millennials; Are We Driven By Alcohol?

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Millennials! The fastest growing generation that is always on the run either to make a name for themselves or simply to secure the bag. We are constantly meeting up, signing deals and "hooking up" however does every meeting and hangout have to be alcohol based? Do we constantly need to have alcohol to have a "great time" do we actually need to be intoxicated just to remember it as the "best time" of our lives?  I met up with one guy, Sandile Mehlomakhulu whose 24 years of age and feels this generation is indeed alcohol based. I mean an ideal hangout or celebration for him included having a beer or two. Interesting how a mere celebration, even if it's to celebrate something big or small Sandile always felt the need to having alcohol with him. Sandile spent an entire 5 weeks in hospital due to a broken leg that dislocated his hip and this all happened right after celebrating his academic results. Most people would think after such a distressi

Don't Judge My Hustle Support It!

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How hungry are you for this opportunity?, How badly do you want this? These are questions mostly asked when you sitting in an interview room. Now most of us find ourselves rushing to answer it by saying "I'm willing to do anything", willing to do anything? For real? Are we really willing to do anything or we just saying it to buy the interviewers face and time?. Most young people find themselves in working environments that are draining not only physically but emotionally as well. The lack of "everything" has led us to wanting to do "anything" just so that we can secure the bag but question is are we really securing the bag?. One of my friends used to say to me I need to get over the "bazothini abantu" syndrome an african proverb that means "what will people say" (basically saying people will always talk whether you do good or bad). He used to say to me I need to work to secure the bag and worry later what people will sa

It's Never Just Sex; There's Always Strings Attached!

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It's a pity that my generation has become numb towards things that matter. Things like spiritual welfare, cultural and traditional practice's. We choose to practice what we want, when we want and how we want. Terms and sayings like "YOLO" (you only live once) "FOMO" (fear of missing out) "Situationship" (less of a relationship and more of a casual encounter, more or less a casual sexual encounter) "Entanglement" (being involved with two or more individuals) have left my generation thinking they can have sexual encounters without having any "inconveniences" or rather "backlashes" for it. Many young people find themselves getting stuck between keeping up with their morals, values and friends who keep reminding them on terms like "YOLO" and sayings like "it's just sex friend". My friend Karabo* (not her real name) hated it every time I told her that going to the club degrade