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We live in a time and age where most young people in relationships are comfortable in posting thirst traps, matter of fact most young people in relationships post thirst traps like it’s a norm. Have you ever heard of the term "thirst trap"? It's a slang word that refers to a provocative or seductive photo or video posted on social media, usually with the intention of attracting attention or compliments from others. Some people use thirst traps to boost their self-esteem, flirt with someone they like, or make their ex jealous. But what if you're in a relationship? Is it okay to post thirst traps when you have a partner? On every social media platform, there is about 80% of thirst trap pictures and videos that provoke the viewer and in most cases the thirst trap poster claims to merely post because they love themselves and would like to share themselves with the world. There's no definitive answer to this question, as different couples may have different bou

Being too available in relationships can be a sign of low self-esteem, fear of abandonment, or lack of boundaries. It can also lead to resentment, boredom, or loss of attraction from your partner. If you want to stop being so available and create more balance and harmony in your relationship, here are some tips to help you: - Recognize your own worth and value. You are not defined by your relationship or your partner's approval. You have your own interests, passions, and goals that make you a unique and interesting person. Remind yourself of your strengths and achievements, and celebrate them. - Set healthy boundaries and respect them. Boundaries are the limits you set for yourself and others on what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour. They help you protect your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively to your partner, and don't let them cross them. Likewise, respect your partner's boundaries and don't try t

Now I know some of you are wondering, what the highs were, the lows, what the triggers were, and what the red and green flags were. Well, I am here to share exactly that. During my stay with him, I realized that the first few months were more of me and him trying to "not step on each other's toes" as we have not been as up, close, and personal before. Each day was more of "No it's fine you can watch your show I will watch mine after yours," *laughs* I am laughing because wow what a ridiculous way to strengthen a relationship by trying to avoid pressing each other's buttons. There’s a lot that comes with moving in with your partner, from the likes of whose place you choose and why, who gets to sell their furniture and who keeps theirs, how you share chores and other daily tasks but also the important one; Finances! How do you break down the money? Well, I am here to share my experience; I am here to share how cohabiting has worked for me, and some of

The beginning of any relationship is always scary. I believe it is because of not knowing what to expect and also trying to lower your expectations but not trying to seem desperate simultaneously. Relationships are hard! It’s a given,however that, we are born to be in relation with one another regardless of what we feel or go through. Here I am years later, after having tried all sorts of ways of dating and I am still stuck with the same problem. I am stuck with me babying people I date because I still believe I should play the mother role in their lives. My notion of mothering the guy is me getting to know him so much that I know every single detail about him, leaving me with a guy that knows nothing about me because I never really gave him the chance to get to know me. Again, relationships are hard but who makes them even harder? As a pastor’s kid, I have always been taiught that there are some things I should not do because it will bring shame to the family but also because my

"let's take things slow" he said. With a puzzled look on my my face I continued sipping on my wine. This is crazy because I am talking about a guy that just wined and dined me. From sending an uber to fetch me to buying me flowers and picking my favorite wine, I still didn't know what "let's take things slow" means or even look like. The battle of defining love changes every single day as we continue doing the trial and error method. My biggest fear isn't me investing in another person but me investing in a person that doesn't have clear intentions. A person that can't define what it is that they want or stand for. Everyone has a God given yearning for complete and unconditional love. Being present in a relationship or an encounter with another person requires you to know who you are and what your intentions are. The minute you start second guessing your intentions that's where you start being absent in that relationship or en

Millennials! One of the most outspoken generation ever, constantly redefining everything from what qualifies to be called a career, family customs to relationship goals. This generation has redefined relationship goals so much that it's not only limited to matching t-shirts, couple handshakes, owning a business together but to actually being purpose partners. Our past experiences has stirred up our anxiety so much that we enter into a relationship with one foot in and one foot out. "I'm protecting my heart" are words used by most millennials when they justify why they are half committed. The lack of understanding when it comes to relationships, the purpose of a relationship, basic necessities that keep a relationship going is why we still have failed relationships and young men and women entering into relationships thinking their in love only to find them seeking for attachment and pleasure from the other person they claim to be in love with. O

The struggle of learning another person's love language is still a challenge when it comes to millennials. Dating a broken guy whiles I'm broken myself brings so much anxiety. I question every move I make, every word I say and everything I suggest; am I doing too much? am I doing too little? am I caring too much? (Is there such) anyway I'm just anxious being with this human being and I'm just curious if what I want is what he wants. The problem is not the relationship or the duration of the relationship but the two individuals who are anxious, doubtful and worried if they are about to reach destiny world (ideal partner) or doubt world (trial and error). My struggle isn't being in a relationship but how I act when I'm in a relationship. I tend to forget that it requires commitment, which is something we need to practice every day, we need to learn to recommit every single day no matter how tiring or frustrating our partner is. The bible says love is k

  The past few weeks I've been having conversations with close friends about relationships from what drives a relationship, what keeps two people together, makes them commit to each other and how we can define relationships in the 21st centaury (that's if we have a different kind of love). These conversations have been thought provoking so much that it got me reflecting on my own life. I got to look at what I want and what I look for in a man and I asked myself a couple of questions, have I been settling for less? am I even willing to settle for less? Well I don't know hey but what I do know is yes I have lowered my standards a couple of times and this has drained me emotionally and mentally. I moved from believing into one thing and actually allowing myself to compromise what I don't believe in just because I'm "in love". This caused me to be the one that invested more in the relationship. I would be the one doing all the calling, texting and

...'if you love me send me money'...some of the words men get from women which somehow paints women as gold diggers and men as stingy humans. The problem has never been men struggling to give women money, it's never been that men don't want to come through for their partners financially it's just the struggle of failing to have proper conversations that align out exactly what they want in relationships. Our generation is very diverse, we say what we want when we want how we want and often fail to stand for what we said. Millennial females stood their ground and spoke out about how they will not stand for an emotionally broken man because they are not "rehabilitation centers" for broken men. They however forgot to mention that men also don't want to be financial funders for poverty minded women. Men also want to come through for a woman that is also making means to take care of herself, not a woman that waits for everything to be handed to h

Shuuuu! Can we wrap up the year already? (That sounded so relieving to so many of us) I mean the year has been very exhausting and draining however we managed to survive and we are a few weeks away before we finally concluded 2020 and step into 2021. I don't know about some of you guys but I'm honestly not ready to start the new year. I have some anxieties that just hold me back from dreaming and allow myself to be however I looked into 2020 and honestly it wasn't all bad, there were happy moments here and there. *sighs* I take a deep breath because I know this thing has been one of the most "challenging" thing in my life but I think I finally found what the problem is. See relationships are meant to challenge us, grow us and make us look at ourselves in a different way.  2020 wasn't kind when it came to me finding "Mr right" or wait maybe I'm too young to be even looking for him, wait am I? Ok! Let's start at the beginning...