It's Never Just Sex; There's Always Strings Attached!
Terms and sayings like "YOLO" (you only live once) "FOMO" (fear of missing out) "Situationship" (less of a relationship and more of a casual encounter, more or less a casual sexual encounter) "Entanglement" (being involved with two or more individuals) have left my generation thinking they can have sexual encounters without having any "inconveniences" or rather "backlashes" for it.
Many young people find themselves getting stuck between keeping up with their morals, values and friends who keep reminding them on terms like "YOLO" and sayings like "it's just sex friend".
My friend Karabo* (not her real name) hated it every time I told her that going to the club degraded her, she thought I was against her "having fun" and so because of that she chose to distance herself from me and she did her own thing. One thing I can say about situationships or entanglements or any relationship that isn't right for you involves a lot of lies, deceit, unfaithfulness and distancing yourself from loved ones.
Karabo did exactly that I found myself friendless, I had no one to talk to, no one to hang out with, all because my friend was busy having casual sex and lying to herself saying "it's just sex there's no strings attached". We may not see nor feel it at that given moment but there are always strings attached.
You can move from one situationship to the next and still claim there are no strings attached however spirits were exchanged during the encounter, you took part of that person and that person took part of you. Somewhere in the world another human being has parts of you and you have parts of them.
I think for me the scary part about this whole thing is actually thinking about how deep this spiritual thing goes. My friend Karabo (who was willing to share her story with me) shared with me how she nearly lost herself in this whole situationship stuff.
After jumping from one situationship to the next Karabo finally slept with the "wrong guy" (I say wrong because after this encounter Karabo went through a huge turbulence), this guy had "traditional" issues, issues that needed first to be sorted out before engaging sexually with anyone. Karabo now carried that dirty spirit and because she didn't want the spirit herself she wanted to pass it on but didn't know how, so she engaged again in another situationship. The spirit didn't fully exit her body as these two become one as they engaged instead she passed a portion of that spirit and the other part remained with her.
In this case most people would move on like nothing happened and continue pursuing life, which is absolutely correct there's no point in waiting in sorrow. I think in most cases you feel it when your purpose is delayed. See here's the thing God is never late for your calling, purpose or even blessing however he delays it if there's something he needs to teach you, fix or correct in you.
Karabo's purpose is delayed because the guy she slept with needed to be cleansed culturally, spiritually he needed to be taught humility, how to take care of finances, learn the basics of having faith and learn the basics of praying. Now this is passed to Karabo in bits and pieces the minute they had an encounter. The guy did unfortunately die (may his soul rest in peace). Can you imagine losing part of you? Can you imagine feeling weak, empty, powerless and emotionless? Karabo fell sick, she constantly collapsed, felt like she was dying and she contracted a virus.
Now the purpose of her story is not to scare anyone or even make Karabo look bad or anything like that however it is to remind young people that your purpose is delayed because you engaging with people who have troubling spirits, you engaging with people that you not supposed to be engaging with and that will create problems for you in the long run. Just like I said you may not feel the "inconveniences" or "backlashes" at that moment however the older you grow the more you feel it.
Stop having casual sex and making it feel like it's an ok thing, stop engaging with people that are married, taken or people who have their partners. You are naturally bringing a delay in your purpose. How will you fully achieve your purpose if some guy or girl has parts of you? On top of that you continue giving yourself out for more people to have you at what expense? Fun? Drinks? Money? Friends?
Start making conscious decisions, it's never just sex there's always strings attached. Questions is are you willing to carry around those strings?
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