Wrapping Up 2020 (Part 2; Men Are Not Financial Funders For Women Who Have A Poverty Mindset)


...'if you love me send me money'...some of the words men get from women which somehow paints women as gold diggers and men as stingy humans.

The problem has never been men struggling to give women money, it's never been that men don't want to come through for their partners financially it's just the struggle of failing to have proper conversations that align out exactly what they want in relationships.

Our generation is very diverse, we say what we want when we want how we want and often fail to stand for what we said. Millennial females stood their ground and spoke out about how they will not stand for an emotionally broken man because they are not "rehabilitation centers" for broken men.

They however forgot to mention that men also don't want to be financial funders for poverty minded women. Men also want to come through for a woman that is also making means to take care of herself, not a woman that waits for everything to be handed to her on a silver platter.
"He better give me money, I mean that's his duty" I thought relationships were about uplifting each other and growing each other and not turning it into a feeding scheme. His duty is to love you and "help out" from time to time. Men feel entitled to a woman once they start doing everything for her. The level of respect they gave in the beginning of the relationship lowers because of entitlement.

Some of the reasons for GBV and femicide is the fact that men feel entitled to their partners simply because they are financially taking care of them.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating a guy that takes care of you financially but don't turn that into a feeding scheme where he now needs to buy and pay for things you can afford and financially cover.

Again men are not financial funders for women with a poverty mindset. Be independent, take care of yourself you are your own responsibility. The men's duty is to spoil you and not fund your entire life because you are failing to cover your basic needs.
Independence starts in the mind, poverty also starts in the mind so it's up to you which one you want to start and proceed with.

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