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...'if you love me send me money'...some of the words men get from women which somehow paints women as gold diggers and men as stingy humans. The problem has never been men struggling to give women money, it's never been that men don't want to come through for their partners financially it's just the struggle of failing to have proper conversations that align out exactly what they want in relationships. Our generation is very diverse, we say what we want when we want how we want and often fail to stand for what we said. Millennial females stood their ground and spoke out about how they will not stand for an emotionally broken man because they are not "rehabilitation centers" for broken men. They however forgot to mention that men also don't want to be financial funders for poverty minded women. Men also want to come through for a woman that is also making means to take care of herself, not a woman that waits for everything to be handed to h

Shuuuu! Can we wrap up the year already? (That sounded so relieving to so many of us) I mean the year has been very exhausting and draining however we managed to survive and we are a few weeks away before we finally concluded 2020 and step into 2021. I don't know about some of you guys but I'm honestly not ready to start the new year. I have some anxieties that just hold me back from dreaming and allow myself to be however I looked into 2020 and honestly it wasn't all bad, there were happy moments here and there. *sighs* I take a deep breath because I know this thing has been one of the most "challenging" thing in my life but I think I finally found what the problem is. See relationships are meant to challenge us, grow us and make us look at ourselves in a different way.  2020 wasn't kind when it came to me finding "Mr right" or wait maybe I'm too young to be even looking for him, wait am I? Ok! Let's start at the beginning...

Millennials! The fastest growing generation that is always on the run either to make a name for themselves or simply to secure the bag. We are constantly meeting up, signing deals and "hooking up" however does every meeting and hangout have to be alcohol based? Do we constantly need to have alcohol to have a "great time" do we actually need to be intoxicated just to remember it as the "best time" of our lives?  I met up with one guy, Sandile Mehlomakhulu whose 24 years of age and feels this generation is indeed alcohol based. I mean an ideal hangout or celebration for him included having a beer or two. Interesting how a mere celebration, even if it's to celebrate something big or small Sandile always felt the need to having alcohol with him. Sandile spent an entire 5 weeks in hospital due to a broken leg that dislocated his hip and this all happened right after celebrating his academic results. Most people would think after such a distressi

How hungry are you for this opportunity?, How badly do you want this? These are questions mostly asked when you sitting in an interview room. Now most of us find ourselves rushing to answer it by saying "I'm willing to do anything", willing to do anything? For real? Are we really willing to do anything or we just saying it to buy the interviewers face and time?. Most young people find themselves in working environments that are draining not only physically but emotionally as well. The lack of "everything" has led us to wanting to do "anything" just so that we can secure the bag but question is are we really securing the bag?. One of my friends used to say to me I need to get over the "bazothini abantu" syndrome an african proverb that means "what will people say" (basically saying people will always talk whether you do good or bad). He used to say to me I need to work to secure the bag and worry later what people will sa

It's a pity that my generation has become numb towards things that matter. Things like spiritual welfare, cultural and traditional practice's. We choose to practice what we want, when we want and how we want. Terms and sayings like "YOLO" (you only live once) "FOMO" (fear of missing out) "Situationship" (less of a relationship and more of a casual encounter, more or less a casual sexual encounter) "Entanglement" (being involved with two or more individuals) have left my generation thinking they can have sexual encounters without having any "inconveniences" or rather "backlashes" for it. Many young people find themselves getting stuck between keeping up with their morals, values and friends who keep reminding them on terms like "YOLO" and sayings like "it's just sex friend". My friend Karabo* (not her real name) hated it every time I told her that going to the club degrade

A long  pause  and stare  as  we  wait  for  a person with disability to  walk past, get  into  the taxi, climb the stairs, buy first, or  even skip the long  queue. How  many of  us  stopped to  stare  with eyes  filled with pity?  Thinking  at  the back of  our  minds  “oh shame”.  Do  we  even make space  or  allow  them  to be serviced first  only to  pass  demeaning  comments  and  to  express  our  frustrations  because  Lord knows  we  have  been standing  in  this  line for  forever?  Well, all day and  every day, the funny part  is that  the pity and shame  is  what  they feel for  us  because  it  goes on to  show  the level of  our ignorance  and insensitivity. If  anything, persons  with disability hate  the stares, truth be  told unnecessary. Thato  Mphuthi  Feminist  Activist  (sexual and  reproductive  health, rights  and  justice  champion, a leader  and  advocate  for  selfcare). Founder  of  Enabled Enlightenment, Gauteng  Youth Capital Influencer, Marie S

 'Abby!,  Hi  can  we  meet up  with  you? whats  your  schedule  looking  like?  are  you  available  for  the  event we are putting  together? how much do you charge?' those  were the kind of messages I was receiving before the pandemic. I was an unstoppable  train, I was on the run hosting events back  and forth, facilitating workshops and  dialogues at different organizations until  the pandemic came and caused a huge turn  over, more like a havoc! A tsunami if I could  label it that.  I'm not sure how other people are handling  the pandemic, I also don't know much damage it caused but for me it was havoc. I had to start over, I had to rethink everthing  that I was doing. I had to reconisder the  smallest things such as how I was advertsing myself on the socials. I had to rethink which social media platforms work  for me best especially when it came to advertising myself as a brand and the work I do.    This meant me spending more time on the socials, en