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Rebuilding Our Relationship With God

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C.S. Lewis once said, "You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending." How does our relationship with God grow when we stumble? According to Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV), "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths." As this scripture says, we are to trust in the Lord with everything we have, acknowledging who He is. When we stumble in our relationship with God and acknowledge our transgression against Him, He picks us up again and starts anew, like a child learning to ride a bike. As heirs of God through Jesus Christ, we are called to be set apart from the world around us and renew our minds. Just like any other human being with mistakes you are probably reading this wondering how I am going to do that whiles I have so much sin weighing around me and me having pushed God so far away, what am I to do now? Well I have

Making Cents Make Sense!

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We are 3 months away from the year-end and I am sure I am not the only one who is trying to make the cents make sense. Financial stability is the one thing most of us are striving for; better yet no one wakes up and wants to be stuck in debt or struggle to make their money work for them. I'm not rich, and neither do I have multiple incomes, however, I advise you to jump into getting more than one source of income, In my next article I will share how you can do that. In the meantime, let us talk about how you can make that one cheque work for you. 5 Important Tips to Follow Before I jump into these things I am pretty sure you already know these things, You probably already practicing them, or just like me at times you write them down swear to do them, and end up not doing them. The trick is not only to write them down but also to start practicing them. 1. Create a Budget! I cannot emphasize how important a budget is, having a list of the essential things that need to be bou

Untold Stories of Vat 'n' Sit: Part 2

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Now I know some of you are wondering, what the highs were, the lows, what the triggers were, and what the red and green flags were. Well, I am here to share exactly that. During my stay with him, I realized that the first few months were more of me and him trying to "not step on each other's toes" as we have not been as up, close, and personal before. Each day was more of "No it's fine you can watch your show I will watch mine after yours," *laughs* I am laughing because wow what a ridiculous way to strengthen a relationship by trying to avoid pressing each other's buttons. There’s a lot that comes with moving in with your partner, from the likes of whose place you choose and why, who gets to sell their furniture and who keeps theirs, how you share chores and other daily tasks but also the important one; Finances! How do you break down the money? Well, I am here to share my experience; I am here to share how cohabiting has worked for me, and some of

Untold Stories of Vat 'n' Sit: Part 1

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The beginning of any relationship is always scary. I believe it is because of not knowing what to expect and also trying to lower your expectations but not trying to seem desperate simultaneously. Relationships are hard! It’s a given,however that, we are born to be in relation with one another regardless of what we feel or go through. Here I am years later, after having tried all sorts of ways of dating and I am still stuck with the same problem. I am stuck with me babying people I date because I still believe I should play the mother role in their lives. My notion of mothering the guy is me getting to know him so much that I know every single detail about him, leaving me with a guy that knows nothing about me because I never really gave him the chance to get to know me. Again, relationships are hard but who makes them even harder? As a pastor’s kid, I have always been taiught that there are some things I should not do because it will bring shame to the family but also because my

Women Taking Up Space; Part 3 - Young Generation, The Lady Behind The Heel!

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The epitome of women succeeding is still based on men. I mean men don’t even have to say much, society on its own has labeled us women as people who can’t make it without assistance. “behind every success man is a woman” why must I be behind you? Why must I be your tail and not your head, why must I be your follower and not your leader?  We won’t deny the fact that the bible reminds us that men are the providers and we are the nurtures however we will also not look away at the fact that God created us in His imagine. When we read the bible we see how creative, artistic and multitalented God was and is. So that means we as women also have those characteristics embedded in us. Society having to learn and unlearn some of the things that oppress us is still a challenge as we “society” still have a narrow mindset about certain things.  Women are constantly fighting to take up space in their respective industries and in most cases the people that look down on them, de

Women Taking Up Space; Part 2 - She's Boss!

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From the beeping sound of our alarms to the daily notifications we get, by now you know that young people are in the gist of getting up and making something of themselves. The rush of being a career woman is the daily order. Not only are young people doing the most in their respective industries but we also have young black females dominating in these industries. The evolving of time has caused us females to not only strive for excellence but to stand our ground. The notion of “a woman’s place is in the kitchen” has been wiped off by women who are taking up space, women like the likes of Karabo Ramabu.  Meet Karabo Ramabu, 24-year-old self-taught makeup artist, YouTuber, business owner, female president and junior board assistant chairperson for a youth development organization. ‘I define a modern woman as someone whose bold, go getter, content and knows who they are’ said Karabo. Women taking up space and creating space for other women, to also come and take th

Women Taking Up Space; Part 1 - Corporate Queen

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  What a time to be alive, from being under house arrest “lockdown” to living in the midst of a pandemic. The country has taken an unusual turn. However, that hasn’t stopped women from chasing their dreams and achieving their goals. We constantly define a woman as a strong person, someone who is fearless, a go-getter, ambitious and driven. Well met Lindokuhle Yolanda Dube the CEO of a company called Msebenzi Wethu Services that deals and focus on laundry, gardening and your daily services that you may require as a person. Naturally being a female in South Africa is tough, we are constantly fighting battles that we ourselves didn’t even ask for, we faced with battles that are beyond us, battles that force us to be strong even in the midst of a deadly pandemic; Covid- 19. It takes a grounded, steady and focus woman to take up space, even in a society that is male dominated. Words like “a woman’s place is in the kitchen” “your duty is to raise the kids and th