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Dear God, There are days when I don’t have the words. Days when my heart is quiet, not out of peace—but exhaustion. When the prayers don’t come easily, and faith feels like reaching into the dark, hoping You’ll still be there. Today is one of those days. I want to believe, truly I do, but some moments feel heavier than others. The waiting feels long. The silence feels loud and even though I’ve seen Your goodness before, I sometimes wonder if You still hear me. But even in my doubt, I still reach for You. That must mean something. So here I am, Lord. Not perfect. Not whole. But present. That has to count for something, too. If nothing else, thank You for never growing tired of me. Thank You for grace that meets me when I fall short. For loving me in my wrestle, not just in my worship. Help me find peace in the unknown. Remind me that You’re not gone when You’re quiet. And even if my faith is trembling, let it still be real—because I’m still choosing to turn toward You, even in ...

Dear God, This is my last attempt at blogging. Honestly, I feel so lost. At times, ideas flow effortlessly, and I’m brimming with content, but then I hit a wall where I have nothing to offer. I’m uncertain whether it’s social anxiety, fear of how others will perceive me, or the worry that no one will read my articles. I love writing—I know it's a gift you’ve blessed me with—but I’m scared. Scared to practice, scared to grow, and scared to fully embrace myself in this journey. I don’t feel aligned with my purpose—not because I lack financial success—but because I sense a deeper misalignment. I’ve tried pursuing what I believe you’ve called me to do, yet I often find myself stuck. The emptiness of being out of alignment is overwhelming, and sometimes it feels as though you’re distant, as though you’ve left me to navigate this alone. These thoughts can spiral into self-doubt, making it seem reasonable in those moments to believe the worst about myself. For the past two years, I h...

Dear God, It’s incredible how loneliness can lead to so much sin. I find myself drowning in struggles I’ve never faced before, yet they’ve somehow become part of my identity. It’s astonishing how a small habit can spiral into addiction. Sin brings nothing but emptiness and loneliness, and I feel trapped. I’ve always desired to get married and have a husband, but I didn’t trust your timing. I rushed into my own plans, and now I’m stuck with the consequences. After breaking up with my ex—someone I almost had a child with—I quickly moved in with my current partner. At first, things were great. But then he started cheating, finding excuses to leave the house whenever possible. I didn’t learn of it until after we had our child, who is now a toddler. Even after finding out, I stayed. I used to believe I’d walk away if a partner ever cheated on me. Yet here I am. When he promised he wouldn’t do it again, I chose to believe him. But then it happened again—this time with a colleague. The m...

Taking care of oneself is indeed a multifaceted journey that extends far beyond the realms of basic hygiene and attire. It's a holistic approach that encompasses the physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual aspects of our being. The physical aspect, which is often the most tangible, involves not just exercise and diet, but also adequate rest and listening to the body's signals. It's about nurturing the body with nutritious food, hydrating sufficiently, and resting when needed. My story of being hospitalized for dehydration and exhaustion is a constant reminder of the consequences of neglecting our physical needs. It's a common tale in today's fast-paced world, where the hustle culture often glorifies overworking and undervalues rest. The signs of fatigue, dehydration, and poor eating habits are alarms that our body sends us, signaling the need for a change in lifestyle. Acknowledging these signs is the first step towards self-care. It's about creat...

We live in a time and age where most young people in relationships are comfortable in posting thirst traps, matter of fact most young people in relationships post thirst traps like it’s a norm. Have you ever heard of the term "thirst trap"? It's a slang word that refers to a provocative or seductive photo or video posted on social media, usually with the intention of attracting attention or compliments from others. Some people use thirst traps to boost their self-esteem, flirt with someone they like, or make their ex jealous. But what if you're in a relationship? Is it okay to post thirst traps when you have a partner? On every social media platform, there is about 80% of thirst trap pictures and videos that provoke the viewer and in most cases the thirst trap poster claims to merely post because they love themselves and would like to share themselves with the world. There's no definitive answer to this question, as different couples may have different bou...

Saving and investing are two ways of managing your money for different purposes and time frames. Saving is putting money aside for short-term needs or emergencies, while investing is buying assets that can grow in value over time. Both saving and investing are important for your financial well-being, but they have different advantages and disadvantages. In this blog post, I will share with you my personal journey of learning about investing and how it changed my life. I grew up not really understanding how investing work. I’ve always thought it was a scam. I guess that’s why when I became older I struggled with investing money. The only thing I was always ready to pay towards and knew I wouldn’t have problem when a certain amount is deducted from account are Funeral Policies. My grandmother always said to me “always ensure you have a funeral cover and enough money saved so that when you die the family can use that money to cover for your funeral.” But then I realized that there is ...

One of the things that I often see on Social Media is how important it is to be financially literate from a young age. Having financial skills can help you make smart choices with your money and plan for your future. But what exactly are financial skills and why do you need them? Financial skills are the abilities that allow you to manage your money wisely and make informed financial decisions. Financial skills are crucial for anyone who wants to achieve their personal and professional dreams, whether it is retiring comfortably, buying a home, launching a business, or investing in the stock market. I have to admit that I was not always good at managing my money, and I made some mistakes that got me into debt with my friends and family. It was not a pleasant feeling to avoid their calls or to lie to them about when I could pay them back. That's why I decided to change my habits and learn how to budget, save, invest, and manage debt. These are the skills that I think everyone shoul...

One of the most important aspects of growing closer to God is learning how to communicate with Him. But sometimes it can be hard to tell the difference between your own thoughts, God's voice and the enemy's voice. I used to think that God's voice was always loud and stern, telling me to stop sinning and do better. But as I spent more time with Him, I realized that His voice is actually gentle and comforting, His voice fills me with peace, joy and confidence, while the enemy's voice tries to distract me, make me doubt and confuse me. And my own voice is often stuck in the middle, wondering "Is this really God? God, if this is you, give me another sign". The Bible says in Psalm 145:18, "The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." And in Matthew 6:33, it says "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." Here are some tips to help you strengthen your relat...

Being too available in relationships can be a sign of low self-esteem, fear of abandonment, or lack of boundaries. It can also lead to resentment, boredom, or loss of attraction from your partner. If you want to stop being so available and create more balance and harmony in your relationship, here are some tips to help you: - Recognize your own worth and value. You are not defined by your relationship or your partner's approval. You have your own interests, passions, and goals that make you a unique and interesting person. Remind yourself of your strengths and achievements, and celebrate them. - Set healthy boundaries and respect them. Boundaries are the limits you set for yourself and others on what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour. They help you protect your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively to your partner, and don't let them cross them. Likewise, respect your partner's boundaries and don't try t...

Why do I crave a relationship so badly? This is a question that many people ask themselves, especially if they have been single for a long time or have experienced repeated rejections or breakups. It is natural to want to share your life with someone who loves you, supports you, and makes you happy. But sometimes, this desire can become so intense that it causes you to feel anxious, depressed, or desperate. You may start to think that you are not good enough, that you are missing out on something, or that you will never find your soulmate. Why does this happen? And what can you do about it? There are many possible reasons why you may crave a relationship so badly. Some of them are: - You have low self-esteem and you think that having a partner will make you feel more confident, attractive, or worthy. - You are lonely and you lack meaningful connections with other people, such as friends, family, or community. - You are bored and you want some excitement, adventure, or novelty in yo...

C.S. Lewis once said, "You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending." How does our relationship with God grow when we stumble? According to Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV), "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths." As this scripture says, we are to trust in the Lord with everything we have, acknowledging who He is. When we stumble in our relationship with God and acknowledge our transgression against Him, He picks us up again and starts anew, like a child learning to ride a bike. As heirs of God through Jesus Christ, we are called to be set apart from the world around us and renew our minds. Just like any other human being with mistakes you are probably reading this wondering how I am going to do that whiles I have so much sin weighing around me and me having pushed God so far away, what am I to do now? Well I have ...

We are 3 months away from the year-end and I am sure I am not the only one who is trying to make the cents make sense. Financial stability is the one thing most of us are striving for; better yet no one wakes up and wants to be stuck in debt or struggle to make their money work for them. I'm not rich, and neither do I have multiple incomes, however, I advise you to jump into getting more than one source of income, In my next article I will share how you can do that. In the meantime, let us talk about how you can make that one cheque work for you. 5 Important Tips to Follow Before I jump into these things I am pretty sure you already know these things, You probably already practicing them, or just like me at times you write them down swear to do them, and end up not doing them. The trick is not only to write them down but also to start practicing them. 1. Create a Budget! I cannot emphasize how important a budget is, having a list of the essential things that need to be bou...

Now I know some of you are wondering, what the highs were, the lows, what the triggers were, and what the red and green flags were. Well, I am here to share exactly that. During my stay with him, I realized that the first few months were more of me and him trying to "not step on each other's toes" as we have not been as up, close, and personal before. Each day was more of "No it's fine you can watch your show I will watch mine after yours," *laughs* I am laughing because wow what a ridiculous way to strengthen a relationship by trying to avoid pressing each other's buttons. There’s a lot that comes with moving in with your partner, from the likes of whose place you choose and why, who gets to sell their furniture and who keeps theirs, how you share chores and other daily tasks but also the important one; Finances! How do you break down the money? Well, I am here to share my experience; I am here to share how cohabiting has worked for me, and some of ...

The beginning of any relationship is always scary. I believe it is because of not knowing what to expect and also trying to lower your expectations but not trying to seem desperate simultaneously. Relationships are hard! It’s a given,however that, we are born to be in relation with one another regardless of what we feel or go through. Here I am years later, after having tried all sorts of ways of dating and I am still stuck with the same problem. I am stuck with me babying people I date because I still believe I should play the mother role in their lives. My notion of mothering the guy is me getting to know him so much that I know every single detail about him, leaving me with a guy that knows nothing about me because I never really gave him the chance to get to know me. Again, relationships are hard but who makes them even harder? As a pastor’s kid, I have always been taiught that there are some things I should not do because it will bring shame to the family but also because my ...

The epitome of women succeeding is still based on men. I mean men don’t even have to say much, society on its own has labeled us women as people who can’t make it without assistance. “behind every success man is a woman” why must I be behind you? Why must I be your tail and not your head, why must I be your follower and not your leader?  We won’t deny the fact that the bible reminds us that men are the providers and we are the nurtures however we will also not look away at the fact that God created us in His imagine. When we read the bible we see how creative, artistic and multitalented God was and is. So that means we as women also have those characteristics embedded in us. Society having to learn and unlearn some of the things that oppress us is still a challenge as we “society” still have a narrow mindset about certain things.  Women are constantly fighting to take up space in their respective industries and in most cases the people that look down on...